3-d Coaching & Consulting



Leadership Coach & Consultant


My Clients are Successful Because they…

  • Identify their success saboteurs and create strategies to overcome them.
  • Find their voice and learn how to speak up, speak out and be heard.
  • Manage challenging conversations with confidence.
  • Strengthen their Positive Intelligence & Mental Fitness.
  • Appreciate the NJ snarky, no BS assessment, hold-feet-to-the-fire guidance.

Meet Mary D’Amato

“I work with all executives and leaders and specialize in coaching women in traditionally male dominated industries to help them find their voice, speak up, speak out and be heard.”

My  Story

It was often, “Sit down, and be quiet.” It was frequently, “I don’t want to hear it. Go to your room.” Many times it was, “Don’t say that.” As I got older, it was implied I had nothing worthwhile to contribute, especially since I was “just a girl.”

From a very young age, I was not allowed to speak up, speak out or encouraged to be heard. Walking to and from school with some of the older kids in the neighborhood, I was ignored or talked over. Being in relationship with a narcissist and having jobs with abrasive and demeaning men kept me quiet, frustrated and angry.

Always struggling to feel as if I had something to contribute and to express it, I made a commitment to learn how to speak up so people would be willing to listen to what I had to contribute, and I learned how to speak out without being confrontational. But where do you learn this stuff? Communication and the courage to speak up are not taught in school so we are left with trial and error, mistakes, apologies and a sense of irrelevance.

Finally, I learned how to find my voice and be heard and how to speak my truth with confidence and kindness. It has been a long and bumpy journey and here I am, helping others with their own communication challenges. It’s the old, “Wish I knew then what I know now,” regret. You do not need to wait to learn what works. If you want to learn how to speak up, speak out and be heard, contact me for a FREE coaching session. We can identify what communication challenges may be getting in the way so
you can start learning what you weren’t taught. You can do this!


What Can I Do For You?


Your Key to Success

Empowering Women

Find Your Voice, Speak Up, Speak Out & Be Heard


Great Leadership, Great Confidence


Inspiring Leaders with
Practical Experience, Wisdom, Humor &
Jersey Girl Attitude

“Il Pesce Puzza Del Capo Primo”

The Fish Stinks From The Head First

Yes, the fish stinks from the head first, and it’s also how you can determine a healthy fish. That’s also how we determine how healthy your organization is. Leaders create the culture by what they reward, Punish and Tolerate! They inspire, set and operationalize standards and implement strategy.

Leadership does not happen in a vacuum nor is it a stand-alone skill. You must compare actual performance with desired performance within your organizational culture. You can then use the insight and information to make the professional, team and organizational changes needed to be  the successful leader you or other leaders are striving to be.

“Hiring Mary as my coach was a “game changer”. There have been a number of people in my life that have helped me develop into a better leader and Mary is one of those very special people. Mary’s coaching and special incite helped me understand how I affected others in my organization, and that I was capable of doing better. She provided me with very usable management and leadership tools that helped me to develop the culture that I wanted, and also developed me into a more effective leader.


Mary D'Amato

3D Coaching & Consulting